Of course it is just a date. It just happens to be a date that officially puts me in a new age category. When I turned 30 I had a party. Heck, I think I even drank some shooters. I had no kids, no house, and no grey hair. I had very little concern for my overall health. Things were very different. As I enter my 40's I think I am a little bit wiser, a lot more responsible and about 300% healthier.
My 30's were full of obvious life lessons. The arrival of my children and the emergence of Crazy Mom were only part of these lessons. In this vain, I have created a list.
Some of the things I have learned in the last 10 years (in no particular order):
1. Don't poke the bear. It is unwise and benefits no one. Dealing with volatile, unpredictable, and unstable people is tricky business. Be calm. Appreciate the times when things are calm. Do not use this time to prove that a person is indeed unstable, because, well, this is something that is already known. Best course of action: Leave the bear alone.
2. I create my own drama. I actually don't like being involved in Soap Opera- like drama. If I feel myself being dramatic, I need to stop. Few things are as personal as I make them out to be. Bad things happen. Tragedy happens. Drama is created. It does not make me happy.
3. There is always something to work on. Whether it is personal, professional, financial or any other possible difficulty, there are always problems to solve. My father always tells me that life is all up hill. He is right. No one coasts through life. Accepting this helps in dealing with the inevitable "problems."
4. I don't NEED 8 hours of sleep every night. 6 hours is fine. 7 is a bonus and 8 is a luxury. Thanks to my children for teaching me this.
5. Exercise can be fun. It can also be painful. But, the end result always feels good.
6. I hate politics. I used to believe politics could be used to make a better world. In the last decade I have realised that more I was involved in politics, whether it was being engaged in a political conversation, or just being involved in the union, the less happy I was. Paradigms shift, the balance of power changes, but true change comes from within yourself. True change is neither left nor right.
Other things I now believe to be true:
1. Elitism is just as bad as racism.
2. Arrogance and selfishness is the root of 90% of the evil in the world (the other 10% is just plain stupidity)
3. You can't have everything.
4. Kids are hope.
5. I really do have the best husband and children a woman can ask for- (even if they make me crazy).
6. Being crazy is the new form of sanity.
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